Can no longer stick to only natural to hear the times force change.

How important in life to hear.
With a decreased power of modern people hear.
This day and age,
Enhancement of power by all means listen is required.

The old days, if you send a normal life perhaps,
Force needed to hear naturally social life
I think to have been attached to the body.
And now sends a spacious living differences,
In the form of discipline,
Manor on the communication capabilities necessary life
Ability to hear the story also wearing
As part of the whole human form
It is assumed had been formed.


But times change naturally
Have left is not growing.
Equips the conscious effort,
I also wear an age.

"Pay attention to make the story more"
Just decided easy these
I thought people over with, it is thought is too sweet.
Determination than not, the
Somewhat, but will be improved,
If you are trying to increase the power to hear a full-fledged,
Efforts sit down and becomes absolutely necessary.

As its base,
1, with strong recognition and motivation to listen to power.
2, gain the knowledge they need to improve.
3, a strategy how to do based on the knowledge acquired.
4 practice and training, while the practice based on the strategy.



Although born with the power to hear anyone

Human use of the word
Because animal communication,
Receiving the raw ability, the first occurrence is the power to hear.
Speak power to hear is based on the development,
Then, writing, reading skills and power.

The first in life,
And some say about when,
To about six months after conception
Already hear the reaction is said to be seen.
As an example, the mother speaks,
Fetus to the rhythm of his voice,
Is not can be determined from the moving body.
We are from the mother's womb
To start the act of listening,
Then, using the words and then over a lifetime
Will be going to the communication.


If there is a problem or something to listen to power,
Between about one year of age in what circumstances
Experience of listening
If you have not done enough,
General ability to communicate
Will be development is inhibited.
In addition, at the same time as the decline of communication skills,
We will also led to decline in learning ability.

That is, we hear most on the living
Is not the underlying support the work of two important.



Let the "胎話" and coming baby

With advances in medicine,
To the baby, the
Than has previously been thought,
That there is a great ability has been found.
During that hearing is in the womb, especially
Among the five senses "auditory = power listening" is
It has been said that most of them to be completed.

The baby of around seven months pregnant,
Been equipped with the power to hear the sound,
Kikiwakeru sound like sound and hate
Also has a capacity
Was found to be.


Prenatal care is now a new meaning
Has been revised with.
In particular, toward the fetus
Thing to hear the sound variety,
Especially that speak
Has been actively attempt.

Sound like a baby,
It's a mother bird does not re-
Is a kind voice.
That speaks of mother-friendly,
Will calm the feelings of the baby,
Wrap the large sense of security.
The baby, named among the cradle uterus,
Lullaby and then the voice of the mother
Growth is going to have.
"胎話" that is also very important for
Would say is one of the prenatal care.

To deepen ties with the baby,
Spend healthy Matanitiraifu

Be a good listener than a good story.

The word poor is a raconteur and story,
Are commonly used either way.
However, for listening, the
As words against good listener,
Word to hear that some poor but,
Actually be used rarely.
This is in recognition of community
This reflects the way.
While there are good people to hear,
If you do not have poor people,
As if as if it were so
It is has been recognized.
In this recognition,
Non-human is good to hear,
It is a normal level.


Hear is, anyone can
So that you can normally,
Such as hear that the poor collection
Is a translation that does not need words.
This is a ridiculous misunderstanding.
Also be heard,
Some good some bad properly.
To do this is such misunderstanding of plating,
Speaking is effortful
But an act of active,
Does not require a special effort to hear
Misconception that the passive act of lying.
May be said the biggest misconception about listening.
In fact,
A great effort is more of listening rather
I thought you may wish to require.

Omission of communication

-Someone has caused the problem
Such as when you have problems, or
In it everyday human relations,
Without trying to solve, immediately,
Counselor to leave.
Because it 's so hard to counselor
Let 's leave and
If you are not a few and listen.
These, of communication
Cutting corners is spreading.


There is one case where anxious.
Students filed a theft on campus,
Kayowasa to where the counselor is,
Within commute several times,
The student said to the counselor.

Was able to speak with an open mind "For the first time,
I get so listen to that for the first time,
The most reliable, "said the counselor only teacher.
What does this exactly you mean?
Is it good there is this society?
Do not speak with an open mind.
Not get, so listen to the story.
Like you can not trust each other, and
Among the only such relationship
Is surely not live,
Yield based on the matters of the heart
Would not it have been?

Please listen to the senior leadership of the life of elderly people from

Why not have an ear to hear, or do not hear
"Do not have ears to hear," Noto "can not have ears to hear" is
Is not there is a big difference.
And "do not have ears to hear" is that I do not even listen,
Aware that "not listening".
And "Do not ask" is that the state can not stand to listen anymore.
"Because it does!" Do not have ears, "even if what you say" listen
I do not have to be condemned?
Not "do not have ears to hear",
"In the state can not hear"
I'll sometimes called a.
What was told at the time of such force is spoken,
What circumstances are or can only get worse,
Also listen to say
I'll have something called "time".
But it is difficult to identify it,
I think that often serve to determine Chikashii in humans.


Of course, in or about to change their own
Or would not think well,
Lazy not attempt such efforts
Some people only and presume.
This distinction is that you can not quite.
However, if you have to worry about such a thing,
I can not say anything can not do anything.
But, it is important to say,
If so was a failure,
Should I Apologize to the obedient.
And, to say that the opponent Ya say,
Well think well to listen.
It does not have ears to hear, rather than
"If you can not listen" even in the state,
By and as soon as that is,
Also the fact that people have still kept saying
Because there, they suffer.

Why "do not ask" "If you can not listen"
And is difficult to determine what,
Because "say", is difficult.



Listen to these elderly
I have called "volunteer listening."

As knowledge of doing so,

1, close the mouth

In conversation of husband and wife, against the opinions bitches
Listening without saying.
Opponent is the only want to hear it.
Even if your mouth if you want to scissors, at least three minutes to put up.
Satisfaction to do so, that I had heard
Not born.
Is equivalent to speak a lot of things if three minutes,
I talked about is the story (I got to hear)
Is obtained from the feeling that,
Now that the other party to hear the story of
Becoming acclimated to his feelings.

2, do not push the idea

The story of the opponent,
Important may not impose their ideas.
Commentary and advice, on behalf of the opponent
Also seems useless to draw conclusions.


3, such as attitude while listening, the

That there are three passport.
① eye contact ......
Looking at the eyes of the opponent in the friendly look,
Other party is relieved, calm.
② ...... smile
Smile, the expression that I take care of the opponent.
③ big nod
Thus, in line with the contents of the story
Once you have the appropriate reaction,
Repeat the same words as the other was talking about ③
I know of in the story, the opponent
Who want to get
Find a keyword,
Repeat the word.
It also, rather than mechanically,
With emotion.
For example, "What are you frustrated ..."
When the other party talk, "I've been so frustrated"
Repeat, and so on.
I can confirm the contents of the story and other's feelings,
Could you also understand that people are talking about,
You can feel is peace of mind gave me the sympathy.

Ability to wear the conversation as a member of society

Ability to wear the conversation as a member of society

Progress of the conversation, but I think the law is that there is a variety of thought,
Power of expression "power" logic "here"
Ability to respond "" understanding ""
I will try to introduce the power of four.

The logical force, that would like to say here with a purpose
Is the force required as a preparation for communicating.
We would start talking now,
Is looking for a conclusion they're more likely to.
Here refers to the logical force,
To clarify what you want to say,
Listener to understand its conclusions
In order to get in what context
Is the ability to think or do I talk.

Expressive power, here I think, thought, opinion,
Power is required in order to accurately convey such impressions.
It can be thought of as convincing.
Even talk the same content,
Vary from person to person is not convincing.
In the horse of choice of words and story line
It increases the persuasive, facial expression, gesture,
Element will also attract the listener gestures.


Ability to understand, you had better listen to even paraphrase force.
Without a worldly thoughts, is enough to listen to the story of human strength.
In order to listen or opponent want to say anything,
Concentration is required.
Consider what to do to turn their concentration.

Ability to respond, for the response from the opponent
Is the ability to respond appropriately.
Accurately even if the other person who can understand
If you do not react,
The conversation will end with it.
Corresponding force, enliven the conversation
It can be thought of as an ability.

Logic power, power of expression, understanding, and ability to respond
Each other linkages, enhance each other match to go,
What I say is not a great conversation.



Power of the stars of listening

Day life of a child,
Morning, "Good morning" in school
When multiplied by the voice, here the sleepy eyes
But for, "Good morning"
You have children do not come back.
Although the eyes in response,
Age-appropriate communication
Not been established.
Greeting of "Good morning" is
As sound and "sounds" just
Why say that?
End long holidays, and school garden has just begun,
What does not get back the rhythm of collective life?

Five children to "hear" the power
It does not work properly, why would


Appetite and sleep, such as physiological needs,
When you send a group living in peace
Desire to safety said,
It is to be take care of their own roles and responsibilities,
Desire for belonging and affection and want to be recognized,
Also that it does not respect the desire is satisfied
What is not one of the reasons.

Desire that this has not been met,
Lead to a mentally unstable state,
What are probably not hear the power used successfully.
This basic desire
Been met for the first time enough,
Of understanding and knowing
Desire is born a child.

Guidelines for improving listening skills

Guidelines for improving listening skills

Skills and hear,
Consisting of a complex process of listening
So that the activity is achieved,
Is the power to run smoothly.
In order to improve this,
Among the communication actually,
Practice while listening,
Not only continue to practice and proficiency training.
Be borne in mind is better placed.

1, is to have responsibility for listening.
In the "communication
Responsibilities also include at least 51% of audience
Must play. "
Something from the communication
Once the speaker and the listener is also equal to or trying to get
Responsible for more responsibility, and communication
It must be an effort to improve the quality.


2, to make a decision.
That with the responsibility of the listener
All aspects of listening,
Means that you make a decision.
Speaking metaphorically, in the absence of spare time
Considered difficult to hear properly,
The decision to not listen
You will also need to make.


3, find the surface can have an interest.
For me, the story that interests are
Although you want to hear it, do not try to hear If you do not,
Interests to the contents of the story,
The motivation you want to hear
Is one of the factors that greatly influenced.

4, instead of the speaker and speech,
To give priority to content.
We, the way the speaker and talk with
Tend to be deprived of the attention, and do not like,
I lost my easy to listen to.
In order to improve listen skills,
Need to take a different strategy,
It is the contents of the story
Is to ensure that the highest priority.


5, refrain from the evaluation.
A strategy that gives top priority to the contents of the story
Taken as,
If yours is beating the excess in the middle of a story,
How appropriate is it to hear and difficult.
White in any evaluation,
I have once defeating the evaluation, the
Then, its evaluation accounted for the mind,
How to listen is a fair and neutral
Will become difficult.
In order to avoid it,
Until you have heard the story as a,
It is important to refrain from evaluation.

6, not too hot
Are stimulated to the contents of the story
Also fall into a state of excitement,
Significantly interfere with the listening.
Strong opposition to the contents of the story
If you feel that's right.
And fall into a state of excitement,
In the head to the speaker
Rebound and rebuttal swirl,
Will no longer be far from listening to the story.
Not only repulsive,
Even if that resonates strongly in the story or sympathy,
You must be careful as well.

7, grab a point
To talk and give a sharp
There is a saying that,
Even if actually hear,
Sharp to listen for the contents of
It is necessary to put it hear.
Rather than just hear all uniformly,
To capture the high and low severity
It is a catch.
Otherwise, the
What exactly was the story or,
And it turns out that I do not know.

8, pour the energy
One of the biggest problems of poor people is to hear,
Energy to be heard
Some that do not try to Sosogo.
Hear that,
The physical and psychological energy
The energy never easy use
Also be sure that pour,
Which is part of the listening skill.


9 fight, distracting attention and to make
Thing to note is distracting,
There are countless.
To society is full of a wide variety of sound,
They may be able to get to distracted the attention of the listener.
Alone would have been disturbed to such things,
I can not deal in any
Because there is bad, to be able to deal quickly
That will be required.

10, train the mind to hear
Even in difficult story for me,
To listen to the challenge.
Listen to the story of the various areas,
Listen to more people.
Accumulating such experience
Train the mind to hear,
Muscle training of the mind is, so to speak, listen.

Motivation you want to hear

Motivation you want to hear

Motivation of the person you want to hear the story.
Produce this factor but diverse and complex,
There are two short-term factors and constant factor.
First of all, short-term factors to change at any given time.
An interest to the contents of the story
(Interestingly, interests, what you want to know)
2, of interest to the speaker
(I hear this, because people want to know what kind of person)
3, the desire to reward
(Want to get the trust-want to give sales)


To each person in the second
In a way that is relatively consistent,
Constant factor is equipped with
A, intellectual curiosity
Strong human greed (this is
And you will know that various)
2, of interest to others
(Of interest to various people)
3, the mind and we are trying to enjoy the communication
4, sense of responsibility to the communications
5, and that no difference exists in the value of humility (
Based on recognition, to boast themselves without human
Attitude of mind as they are about to go in contact)

Creating motivation you want to hear these are,
Factors raise the level.


How to switch depending on the purpose of listening

Same as at any time when people listen to,
What should hear and say, it is different.
How to hear depending on the purpose of the communication
You need to switch.

As how to listen, and try to raise three.


1, a therapy how to listen

How to listen in when hear the story of people who are depressed,
Psychological support.
Or in rebuttal or denied that the opponent says,
I could get in trouble,
Listen to it anyway Uketomeyo positively.
As desired,
By sharing the painful psychological
Is that supporting the other party.

2, how to listen critically

I have heard in how to listen at any time of therapy,
Bailout could damage-fraud scam.
In order not to fall prey to such
How to listen critically needed.
In this how to listen,
A neutral, impartial and calm the story,
It has full use of knowledge and understanding,
Be considered is required.
Actually not so difficult,
Some of the false and contradictory story always
Just hold it because it contains.

3, to hear how appreciative

As desired,
In order to obtain the joy of communication
Fully open the sensibility in the definitive how to listen,
Left to stimulate the mind and circumstances,
Is felt to enjoy listening.

Communication environment in the society

Communication environment in the society

Communication outside the home environment,
Environment can not be ignored in the development of listening ability.
In particular, preschool, kindergarten, school,
Children every single day,
On the fly such a long period of time,
Influence, such as nursery and teachers meet, the
It is a parent and of equal or greater
What will not?
Teachers and nursery teachers,
If you do not have time and feel relaxed,
Communication with children
Likely to be superficial.
Respect of the business school teacher
Such as busy for months,
Such clear difference is very gain.
The development of the power of the children hear,
Said one of the impediments.


TV in the community further
And other,
Some of the mass media
Situation is communication.
The analogy,
In the popular anime
The hero for children
It can be a model,
What kind of hero
The communicative action
Or is representing,
Going to be affected by development.

Communication environment is diverse,
Is not never simple.
Is appropriate that the whole these
Although desirable, spend a lot of time with our children,
Family (parent) and school (teacher), the
Become a model for some of the most influential.
Environment in situations where other
Even a little was very bad,
Even in the home and school environment
If the firm,
The development of children
Would not it also say the problem does not occur.

Let's try it here is a bit of a challenge.

What you need is paper and pencil.

And what to do and say,
The design of front and back of ten yen coins
Recall only draw.
I only draw anyway,
This is more than another and can not remember
If you will move on then I expected.


Out a ten-yen coin So actually
How much can or scoring.
Of item 3 item 4, on the back table
Letters and pictures are painted.
Well you are,
I would have drawn what item?
The average grade Egakere three items.
I think people were drawn 7 and less all the items.

But have seen much every day and say,
I can not remember why?

The answer is not seen with caution since
It is not remembered.

Ten-yen coin challenge but if you see,
The same can be said if you listen to.
Speaker's voice, but hear me speak,
If you do not pay attention to it,
Is it the same and I have not heard.
Is that attention
What is important to understand how,
When you hear to improve the power
Caution will be as big.

Communication in the home environment

Environment and must have appropriate training

Developing the competence and appropriate to hear everyone is
Problem does not necessarily rising to the point,
Innate ability to go to develop properly,
You must have the proper environment and training.
Speaking, and even the ability to swim,
People are born with the ability to swim anyone.
Do it put the baby in the water,
I'll swim hard.
However, we continue to live among,
Some people do not cry no longer swim.
It is a problem of the environment.


If it contains in the water on a regular basis
Ability to swim but it is maintained,
Wear, such as the breaststroke swimming style crawl, the
You need a training absolutely.

Is the same for listening,
The ability to hear everyone is born with,
Expressed as a real force,
Higher level to the most
To continue to developmental,
I need a proper environment and training.

Communication in the home environment

The development of force children to grow up listening
Have a decisive influence.
Most importantly, in the home
There is a communication environment.
Parent from the time of the baby is a child,
Rich and their children as much as possible
It is important that the communication exchange.
Nakaniwa, baby is still the word
Because parents do not know, most do not speak
It can be said clearly that mistake.
Baby, heard the words speak of adults who
I will continue to learn,
Actually hear the power given the opportunity to hear
It will be developed to use.


In addition, the communication in the home
As the environment, Do not forget,
The parent is to be a (model) model.
Model is that the parent,
Children will listen to people if people listen to parents,
Children will not listen to people if people do not hear a parent
Potential will be high.
Their parents, the act of listening
If the practice on a daily basis,
To only the behavior of children as well
You can give.
Children in the body in the skin, so to speak Kanjitori
I can remember.

Management's fate does not hear

Management's fate does not hear

One of the important qualities of a good as a manager,
Be equipped with the power to hear rich.

What comes to mind is devoid of qualities as a manager,
Who is the so-called one-man management.

And one-man management, the
Employees who earnestly to let their thoughts,
Who is the story of our management employees will not listen.
Management, but also holds management like this,
It is only during a limited period of time.
After all, to sell it without a brain of one man
As long as there is, according to the changes in the world
It is extremely difficult to cope.
About one-man management,
Way of thinking and the way it
From specification and adherence,
Is Naonokoto.


Owner a certain well known in the world as one-man management, the
From time to time to fall into serious financial difficulties, to retire to take responsibility,
"All I was wrong,
However, I should have said so Crelle someone ..... "
Leaving those words and that.
This is clearly
Is self-contradictory sad scandalous.

Failure to hear is, these also lead to the loss.

Not limited to business owners,
Also the leader of any organization and collective
Will apply and you should expect.

Karaoke in Japanese society
Phenomenon has been firmly established,
However,
Karaoke has become one mind.
It is that people do not hear much.
Someone is around to singing
Have not heard most often.
People just want to sing,
Some people I do not want to hear.
In other words, people just want to send
It is not much people trying to receive.
This as a formal, karaoke place called the phenomenon.
This phenomenon,
More than one person in the scene to interact linguistic,
Often seen.


Speaking metaphorically, the day-to-day conversation with several people.
Just people they want to talk,
Others do not hear much talk of everyone,
If you do not want to be trying to listen.
Listening is listening,
Just to keep holding down the flow of conversation,
Are targeting every miss the love and speak their own.
But sometimes people are talking
Talk it out to block the.
Indeed, in conversation and karaoke phenomenon
Do not say it.
However, the quality of communication and this would happen
Is ruined.
And communication,
For the first time in the presence of sender and receiver
Because they are true,
If it were not received,
Equal to shout toward the empty space alone trees.

Failure loss of [hear] will bring

Can hear a variety of rewards.

3, good ties with the people to become
In human relations,
Not only speak to each other,
The relationships that listen to
The good thing to me.
Among other things, such as relationships with friends
The case of intimate relationship, listening is important.
In life,
Heard about a friend who listened,
Precious things that might not.

4, good family relationships become
Great talking to your family,
Listen. Hear and speak.
And home is what you want such a place.
In the home, such as conflict and opposition
It is the negative side,
Or a natural thing,
Even hear the story of the other party to each other properly,
If you keep this, the relationship between the family
That the crack that is entering or should not.


5, in the rich life
I mean this, and came out quite large,
There is a vague expression,
One of the most basic desire of human beings we are,
May be understood to understand.
In life, to become the biggest support
There is the presence of anyone who will listen seriously, and that their
Can be a good understanding of themselves,
You can also feel like a I have been understood.
When he and his one man also valuable
You can feel.


Failure loss of [hear] will bring

Not listen to people.
Alternatively, you can listen but to hear,
Do not listen properly.
The failure of hearing, said:,
Not only just compensation can not be obtained,
May lead to a loss,
Results in a significant loss yet.

Immediately after the space shuttle launch
An accident that has exploded and burned, the
In the stage before launch,
Of the booster rocket engineers who
Although I knew the deficiencies of certain parts,
The final decision on launch
Make the upper part, sufficient to the voice of engineers who,
Been launched without listening shine.
Exactly, was a failure to hear.


Also in the medical field,
I hear there is no failure could lead to serious accidents.
Speaking metaphorically, to the patient during surgery
No longer must be administered
The drug name, dose,
Doctors to nurses to instruct orally.
Different listening to it,
Excessive amounts of drugs and the drug should not be administered
Would be administered.
Happens, that could become life-threatening situation of the patient.
This accident Ruishi In the field of health care while increasing complexity,
Is going on in reality.

Can hear a variety of rewards.

Listening is so important.

Human use of the word
To communicate.
To talk to people, I have heard people talking about.
Talking, Listening,
In this communication are two
Is essential to take both,
Of this talk, the conversation of everyone everyday,
Also, such as speeches and presentations,
And want to be able to speak much better,
I think that there is a thing I thought.
However, much better to talk of human
And want to be able to hear
What I thought would be there?
If you think you have if,
You belong to a minority,
Most people without a lot,
That's not unthinkable
Even people that not a few.
Whereas the word "narrative"
Also seen that there is no word "聞術".


This is for listening
Have resulted from a misunderstanding.
It can easily, such as listening,
Have misunderstood,
Much better than normally possible
Is a complex act.
To hear in order to work properly,
Becomes necessary skills,
Training efforts and still,
The first time through the device
It belongs wearable.

Now, in place to hear all over
Has been neglected,
To that end, the quality of communication
Has fallen into a state of degradation.
In order to overcome such situation,
Must take care to hear more.


Can hear a variety of rewards.

And "reward" in this section,
Not only monetary rewards,
As a result when you do something
A positive value to be brought as
Points to something that has widely.
1, sales grow
In that respect to the sale of such services,
The most important thing is to know what customers are seeking.
To do that, all you need
Can listen to the voice of the customer.
Can be a proper understanding of customer needs,
Be able to provide what was in it.
Properly be heard talking about customers,
Lead to a rise in sales compensation.


2, to expand information base
Information and knowledge which they have,
Be carried out effectively that the listening,
This is to expand it.
Be new, from the mouth was opened head (mind) "
Try came in the "not
This is, from speaking, the
To obtain new information can not be.
New information, the story of other people
Be acquired by listening.
Increase the information base to enrich their own
You can go to.

Not a lack Kominikeshon Importance to hear of it.

Needs to hear that you want to extend the power is increasing.
It was said previously the importance of presentation speak well,
Communication has a partner,
Because what it comes to straight-up to understand the opponent,
The importance of listening it would have been reviewed.

Hear that,
Although it is the foundation of communication,
More difficult than speaking.
Not only work, keep the ties of husband and wife at home
What are you working is important that.

Is a good listener, or have a way to hear what is usually their own,
That's important to be aware of that.
Is "listening habit" of their own,
Is that we just have to improve it.
Technology is to hear, that there is a point in three ways.

1, shown in the reaction that you have heard
Sensitive to the speaker that the listener's attitude.
Once you have folded his arms or turning a blind eye partner,
It would be hard to do, if Crelle nod towards here,
Words come out smoothly.
Is that "raise the speaker is the listener's reaction."
② to comeback in the words
Precise as they come back reaction,
Is that story that bounces.
To do so, increase the concentration,
Interested-interested in the contents of the story,
It is necessary to accurately hear.
③ to empathy to other's feelings
Trapped not only the contents of the story,
Awareness towards the movement of the opponent's emotion
Listening is important.
Once you have the same experience as his opponent,
Changing the position and to imagine, easy to sympathize.


Also vary a little story.
That there is only a theory "nod".
This person is not only just words,
Share the rhythm by the body, such as gestures and hand gesture,
Have a smooth communication,
It seems the idea.
Sense of unity is born in one nod,
I think that they can catch the opponent's.
The important thing when you're listening to the story,
You can tell the other party "As far as I know well the story",
Nod and nod, is it the best way.
Nod also, rather than one pattern,
"Yes, yes, well, phooey, ー your sail,
Oh, well, I see, and ... "So,
And have a lot of drawers,
Spread without becoming monotonous conversation.
Observe the state of the opponent,
It's also important to match the tone of voice and facial expressions.
To talk slowly and slowly,
If the corresponding facial expression sad sad.
Like a mirror, his facial expression to match the opponent's face,
Be adjusted to the opponent's breathing,
Which lead to good communication.

<I think the people who polish the sensibility,
I think if there is a power and hear it. >
Also said to "hear",
This is the one that if a lot.
By time and place and situation,
How to listen is slightly different, but will come,
Basically, a secure connection with the opponent to confront,
Listening compassionately is as important.
People is not only words,
Read more than just words and tone of voice and facial expressions of the other
Is as important (hear) also.